Hanuman 
What I meant by “we can never be immune from negativity” is that no matter how much we try, at some level in our being, when someone points their barb at us, we will feel it, then analyze it, then act or not act on it, if we are normal human beings. The same is true of constructive criticism asked for or not.
What other people see me as is an important part of who I am…it doesn’t make me; it doesn’t break me; but it all adds to me. It makes me look at myself. What other people see in my work is very important to me. We all see ourselves and our work with colored glasses and it’s important and very stimulating to me to see what you and others see. A different unattached perspective so to speak. To me, art (using the word loosely in my case) is a highly emotional topic. I may see beauty in something, you may see the beast. It’s interesting, it’s enlightening. From a very early age we care about what people think about us and what they think about what we do. Two distinctly different things.
I have to agree with Ron, if it didn’t matter, we wouldn’t post. It does matter. It makes me strive to learn more, to try harder, to improve and excell.
I think you miss the point on what is personal. Art, by it’s very nature is very personal to an artist or creator. So, to criticize could be construed by some as a personal attack.
I feel like Juandel. It’s very hard for me to post, knowing full well, I’m gonna learn all my weaknesses and failings. But you know what, it’s good information. I learn from it. You only have to look at my first images and compare them with the more current to see that this forum works, at least for me. The difference is that I ask for it. There are many people who do not ask, do not want and do not enjoy that kind of feedback. It only seems fair to those people that we either comment on what pleases us or don’t comment. Pretty simple idea.
<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:</font><HR> People have made their sentiments towards me clear. So what. I don’t want to manipulate their opinion of me, it just doesn’t matter. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
Somewhere, somewhere, I think it does matter whether you choose to admit it or not. Since you opened the door…for me, I haven’t formulated more of an opinion of you other than that you can be pleasant when you want, contrary when you want, even funny, and I respect your opinions as I respect others opinions. You can sometimes make me feel outraged and sometimes make me giggle. To deeply disagree with someone is not to dislike them, only simply to disagree.
We’re getting all caught up in the complexity of art and artists here. It’s not apples and oranges, it’s a blending of the two. One is part of the other and I don’t have an elegant enough command of the English language, any language for that matter, to express totally my thoughts in a clear way.
<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:</font><HR> Why be a hostage to others opinions of you. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>
Make no mistake, I’m no ones hostage and I don’t believe anyone else here is either. I personally am a beginner, a leach, trying to leach all the learning I can here and everyones opinion counts. If anything, this forum is my hostage.
We can make or break ourselves by how we deal with it.
As for Picasso, from what I read, yes other’s opinions because I haven’t found an article yet with his own, I don’t think he was secure at all and I think his art was a lashing out of his insecurities, not confidence and an attitude that he didn’t care what people thought. I think he did. Take this from where it comes. It’s only today that I looked at his art from the name of the piece you gave above. I have no conception of true art. I know what pleases my eye and what does not and that’s what I go by when I look at others work. I don’t analyze balance, color, composition etc…I have no conception of it. I wasn’t trained that way. I use the language, I strive for it but…
We all have different opinions, views, insights, knowledge on a plethora of topics and thank goodness for that! What a boring world it would be if we all agreed on everything! 
To my mind, everyones opinion counts on some level no matter the topic or as Ron says (not a direct quote)…there wouldn’t be a topic.
I go back to my original thought on this thread:
When someone does not ask for a 121, we shouldn’t take it upon ourselves to save them or their art. We should show them the respect they deserve by either commenting on the good we see or just flat don’t comment. It all boils down to mutual respect.
It’s astounding all the bashing of the good comments that’s going on here in this thread by some. They are as important as the constructive criticism. We all see things differently and if someone sees a cube with a hole in it and likes it, more power to em! They should say so, novice or expert alike. 
Now, my brain hurts, you’ve made me think way to hard today. I think I’ll go do some artwork. 