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#1

Thanks for all the kind words folks, they really ment a lot when I would come home for the night. My wife’s daughter has put me through living hell these past few days while she’s been on her own little guilt trip. I, on the other hand just miss my wife. I have been assured by her sister that there are people on her side of the family that do care about me. I know that I had done all that I could this past month, not to mention the last 4 years of our marriage to care for her with all her different illnesses. This last summer really was hard, I was in the hospital for 3 weeks and then 2 months after I got out, she went in ICU and almost died from breathing problems. I quit my job 3 weeks ago to stay home and take care of her. Last Thursday morning I woke up and she was doubled over close to me with her oxygen on. This is the first night I’ve been able to stay home alone. My wife is my whole world, I do understand that it is supposed to get better, and that I will be ok, but I wanna go too!, I wanna go too!.. the drama with the daughter does get worse but I’ll save that for another day.

Thank you for being there for me :slight_smile:

Gordon

#2

Hey There,

Been there, done that and still living with issues. Get through one day at a time, you will find that there are plenty of people who care for you. - cling on to them. Find a way to let go of your grief. Mine was a different story. I found the power of graphics helped me to explain what was happening to me…how I felt. It helped change the course of my life. Things are good now but you never stop thinking “what if”. Hang in there.

TD

#3

Would like to say it goes away, but it doesn’t.
But it does get easier with each day.
After what you have experienced, everything is up
from here.
Fingers crossed for you and prayers go with you.
We are here,if not me today, than someone else.
You are not alone.

#4

I just noticed your first post. It’s hard to know what to say, except to say my household an I will pray for you. I have never lost a spouse so it would be wrong to say I know how you feel. I have buried my parents and sister. It does get better with time. Her daughter will get over the anger and then she will grieve. All you can do is be there for her when she is ready. The anger is a natural part of the process. I know that does not make it any easier. There will come a point when she will come to you and you have to have your act together. Let her know that no matter how she feels you are there for her. She is scared and the anger is a natural part of that. You may think you “want to go too” but you don’t. Not really. In time the bad memories will fade, but the good ones will stay with you and she will live through those memories. There are a lot of big shoulders here to lean on. God bless you and your family.