I hear your troubles Waldoo. I too like everyone else I’m sure, had the same problems your facing when we all started out with ZBrush.
I agree, It really does take some getting use to. I was on the verge of nailing my computer down to the table just to stop myself from hurling it out the window at times. If I got a dollar for every time I had worked on a model for hours, only to mess it up doing somthing I had no Idea I had done, I’d be a very very happy man.
Stick with it, you will soon enough learn the ropes, learn what you can and can’t do, and find ZBrush to be an excellent and very efficient application.
If you find you have flattened your 3D model and can no longer edit it, just hit “CTRL N” to clear your canvas, and simply draw your model straight back and start editing again.
In the picture you have posted above, what has happened is that you have indeed snap shotted your model to the canvas, then you have redrawn it in the same place and rotated it slightly. If you look carefully you will notice that the abormalites surrounding your model are in fact the model placed again inside of your first model and rotated slightly. (confused yet? 
This can be done accidentaly a number of ways. The most common way is by accidentaly clicking on the little icon of the camera which is bunched closely with the rest of the other ‘edit’ tools.
Another common mistake is you may of selected another tool from the tool palette. Once you select another tool it snaps your model to the canvas ready to use a 2D tool such as a paintbrush, smudge brush etc.
This feature is a very handy one indeed. It allows you to create your 3d Model, texture it, and position it where you would like it on the canvas. Then once it is snap shotted to the canvas, you can select 2D tools and add further color, texture details via use of the various paintbrushes and alphas (alphas basically change the shape of the brush amongst other things)
This may seem like a pain at first, however if you really think about it. What do you need another tool for? All the tools for transforming your model are funnily enough in the ‘transform’ palette.
I understand it does get frustrating at first, however stick with it, eventualy it will dawn on you what you can and can’t do, making creating what you need and want to create very easy and enjoyable.
I hope some of this helps with your frustrations. Remember im sure we’ve all been there before. I know I have. Stick with it, you’ll get there.
Best Of Luck.
S. Warner