:Dhi me again having read your post again a few other points
i use sts files from the 3d file exporter and bring my mesh down to under 50k with the decimation master plugins.
idealy for silver or gold castings you want a wall thickness minimum of 0.7mm but be aware that making the walls too thick make a piece heavy and therfore expensive.
i have tried numerous times to cast direct from a 3d printed plastic master, in my opinion its not worth it, first you get residue from the plastic in the casting, and i have tried longer and higher temperature burn out to attempt to rectify this to no avail.
also most 3d printers leave very slight ridges as they build up the layers, looking at a plastic print this might not look to serious but in silver or gold looks bad.
i havnt tried shapeways, direct to silver solution, looking at their site it looks good, and i believe their first step is to print a hi res wax which may get over the ridging problem, but i would suggest getting a test plastic done first, as its quite difficult to judge some aspects of a 3d design on a 2d screen, and you could save yourself a lot of money and disapointment.
most larger casting shops should be able to make you a rtv mold from a plastic and pull some waxes from it, this allows you to ajust the waxes before they are cast, which is fairly straight forward, paying regard to the ridging problem and wall thickness, you can also guesstimate the final weight of the piece by weighing the wax and mutiplying it by 10 for silver and 14for gold again idealy you dont want a pendant that weighs over15 gms and an earing shouldnt weigh more than 5gms comfort wise