Yeah, this is fiddly. This is what I discovered: if you highlight the zsphere the attractor is attached to, by Ctrl+clicking or clicking in Move mode, then the lines will appear. To change the attractor zsphere back to an ordinary zsphere, Alt+click within the lines on the zsphere it’s attached to - towards the edge of the zsphere, not near the center. Make sure the cursor is not a red circle or you will delete the zsphere. (The cursor will change to a red circle when near the center of the zsphere.)
There are certainly some display and selection issues with attractor zspheres but I found this method worked consistently for me.